My thoughts on self-love


8/26/20232 min read

you are worthy of love sign beside tree and road
you are worthy of love sign beside tree and road

Self-love isn't just a trendy buzzword; it's the foundational key to being able to love others, especially our children. As fathers, we often find ourselves wanting to give more, to be more. But when we reach a point where we feel we can't give anymore, that's a critical alert to an inner need to love ourselves more.

What Does Loving Yourself Mean?

Loving yourself means being true to who you are. It means having compassion for yourself, not shaming yourself for your shortcomings, and staying disciplined with the habits that will lead to your desired outcome. Self-love is not selfish or egotistical; it's about recognizing your worth and taking care of your well-being so you can be there for those who depend on you.

My Journey of Self-Love

Through my own journey of self-love, I've seen myself go through many life changes. The path wasn't always smooth, and the lessons weren't always easy. The fact is that some of your current life circumstances are manifestations of self-hate. When you start to love yourself, you may lose things you're not prepared to lose. Maybe a relationship ends. Maybe a job changes. Maybe you move from where you're living or who you're hanging out with.

But here's the thing: it's worth it. The discomfort, the uncertainty, the fear - it's all part of the process that leads to a life where you are aligned with your true self.

The Impact of Self-Love on Parenthood

As fathers, our children look up to us. They see us as their heroes, their protectors, and their guides. When we love ourselves, we're teaching them to love themselves. When we're gentle with ourselves, we're showing them how to be gentle with themselves. When we pursue our passions and live authentically, we're setting an example for them to do the same.

But it starts with us. If we're running on empty, how can we give them what they need? If we're plagued with self-doubt and self-criticism, how can we encourage them to believe in themselves?

The Promise of Self-Love

So, yes, self-love might lead to changes you weren't expecting. It might push you out of your comfort zone. It might require you to let go of things or people that no longer serve your highest good. But it's a journey worth embarking on.

I promise you, as you begin to love yourself more deeply, you'll find that you have more love to give to others, especially your children. You'll find a sense of peace, purpose, and fulfillment that comes from living in alignment with who you truly are.

Join me in this transformative journey. Love yourself not just for you, but for them. For your children deserve a father who knows his worth and lives his truth. And so do you.